Authentic Self: Be You!

Authentic Self: Be You! Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Amir Levine, author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find- and Keep- Love: I know that your book devotes a lengthy chapter to the topic of communication to ensure that your needs are met in a relationship. _____   Dr. Amir Levine Authentic Self: Your Needs It’s to ensure that your needs are met but also to

Secure Partner Benefits

Secure Partner Benefits Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Amir Levine, author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find- and Keep- Love: The anxious-avoidant trap that you mention in your book is exactly that. It’s almost as if the secure can buffer both of those tendencies. _____   Dr. Amir Levine Secure Partner Benefits: Change for the Better It’s amazing. We can change. You can become more

Avoidant Attachment Style Cues

Avoidant Attachment Style Cues Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Amir Levine, author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find- and Keep- Love: For an avoidant, the person that they are with at any point in time, the avoidant will see their flaws. That is where their focus will be so that they can push them away. That same person, after they broke up with them, will

Power of the One

Power of the One Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Amir Levine, author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find- and Keep- Love: It’s so interesting that you mentioned “the one.” You call it “The power of the one.” This is one of a number of different ways in which you mention in your book how people who are avoidant tend to short-change themselves in love. Tell

Avoidant Attachment: Singles Mingling

Avoidant Attachment: Singles Mingling Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Amir Levine, author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find- and Keep- Love: There are cultural misconceptions when it comes to this. In your book, you explain why, when you’re out and about, you’re more likely to meet other singles with an avoidant attachment style. Why is that? _____   Dr. Amir Levine Anxious Attachment vs Avoidant

Men Are Secure in Relationships!

Men Are Secure in Relationships Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Amir Levine, author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find- and Keep- Love: In your book, you address those single readers who identify with the anxious attachment style. They’re reading your book and thinking, “I think I fall in this category at this time.” What is your secret to finding a good relationship when you know

Secure Attachment Style: The Best?

Secure Attachment Style: The Best? Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Amir Levine, author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find- and Keep- Love: Your book lays out in great detail these three attachment styles. You want to be able to self-identify with one of them. In terms of deciphering the attachment style of your partner, you mentioned that people reveal themselves early on by what they

Attachment Style of Your Partner

Attachment Style of Your Partner Jasbina Ahluwalia Dr. Amir Levine, author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find- and Keep- Love: You mentioned that, when you’re out there dating, it’s very helpful to know your own attachment style and self-identify with one of them. Similarly, the ability to decipher the attachment style of your prospective partner would be important. Your book discusses what you term

Dependency Paradox: Healthy Dependence

Dependency Paradox: Healthy Dependence Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Amir Levine, author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find- and Keep- Love: We have the anxious, secure and avoidant attachment styles. Your book discusses what you call the “dependency paradox.” Please tell us about that. _____ Dr. Amir Levine That’s very important. I’m glad that you’re asking about that. In order to understand what attachment style

Attachment Style: Which Are You?

Attachment Style: Which Are You? Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Amir Levine, author of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find- and Keep- Love: I find that fascinating. Your book discusses three main styles in which people perceive and respond to intimacy in romantic relationships. In your book, it is termed “attachment styles.” As a starting point, will you share a brief description of each of the