Dating Wisely: 5 Tips Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: Thank you. I appreciate you sharing all of your insights with us. I’m wondering if there is any last thought or take-home message you’d like to leave our listeners with. _____ Dr. Lisa Bobby Dating Wisely: Slowly and Open Minded If you’re dating: Go slow and be thoughtful about it. Keep an open mind. Make sure that
Why Arranged Marriages Work! Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: I absolutely agree. Our listeners consist of women and men of a variety of ages and ethnic backgrounds. That said, our matchmaking and dating coaching services are focused on South Asians, mainly Indians, who are choosing to opt out of arranged marriages. I’m wondering if, whether from your practitioner experience or while you were training and exposed to
Finding The One: 3 Tips Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: I love that. I can appreciate the value of reflective statements in terms of making someone feel understood. Sometimes we hear our partner say something and we automatically have a story about what they’re saying and meaning. If you do a reflective statement, in case you do get it wrong, there is that opportunity to course correct
Prevent Marital Issues: 3 Steps Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: Yes. I say that there really is no substitute for time and interaction with someone. I analogize it to an onion. Don’t be so fast to rush and want to know everything right away. Allow it to be a peeling back the layers of an onion as you get to know someone. When getting to know someone
Early Stages of Relationships Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: Don’t worry about being the first. You’re not giving anything up. You’re actually enhancing the relationship. I’m sure you’ve seen, the person who starts to do that is not necessarily always the same person. The other person will reciprocate. It shows how the dynamic of a relationship can be changed by just one person taking that step. Even
Help People Listen: How To Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: In terms of a solution to this, share how you go about repairing the fabric of a relationship to deal with the issues that are coming up to the surface. _____ Dr. Lisa Bobby There are a number of interventions that we use in marriage counseling. One of the biggest ones is something that every single
Fix Communication with Counseling Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: It also helps us to have empathy for our partner. Someone coming at it with anger is one thing. But when you realize that they are feeling hurt or scared, then you can develop a sense of empathy for that. You might think, “Now I want to nurture that a little bit more.” I know that you do
Attachment in Relationships Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: What do you think is at the root of the pre-marital problems that you see? _____ Dr. Lisa Bobby When it comes to that very common problem of the pursue/withdraw pattern, it is related to that sense of attachment. Attachment in Relationships: Glue Attachment is the glue that holds a relationship together. Whenever that attachment is disrupted
Flexibility in Young Love Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: I think it’s wonderful for our listeners to hear these concepts from different people and different vantage points. _____ Do you see patterns at different ages or stages of life with people who are pre-marital in their 20s and early 30s versus people who are coming to you in their 50s and 60s? Do you see differences
Relationship Withdrawal: The Cycle Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: What are the most common kinds of negative patterns that you see pre-marital couples engage in? This could be couples that you work with or don’t, but you know this and you wish they would consider coming in to you. _____ Dr. Lisa Bobby Relationship Withdrawal and Perusal: Attachment Theory There is one particular very common relationship
