Fix Communication with Counseling
Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: It also helps us to have empathy for our partner. Someone coming at it with anger is one thing. But when you realize that they are feeling hurt or scared, then you can develop a sense of empathy for that. You might think, “Now I want to nurture that a little bit more.”
I know that you do pre-marital and marital counseling. In terms of marital counseling, what are some of the most common reasons are seeking that?
Dr. Lisa Bobby
Fix Communication with Counseling: Surface Problems
The surface problems that people are dealing with can be very different.
- It can be disagreements about parenting.
- It can be disagreements around finances, housework or people feeling threatened by someone having an outside relationship.
It can be all kinds of things. Most frequently, the problems that married couples have come down to communication.
Fix Communication with Counseling: Safety, Trust
At the core of it, it doesn’t matter what the external circumstance is. It’s about how you regain the feelings of safety, trust and security.
A great way to prevent the superficial problems is to do something like good pre-marital counseling. It can cut so many potential problems off at the pass.
When these problems are happening, it almost always comes down to, “How do we trust each other again? How do we repair our good feelings about each other?”
Fix Communication with Counseling: Repair The Fabric
Jasbina, as a marriage counselor, I can tell people, “Here is what you need to do to get on the same page around housework.”
But if they are feeling angry or resentful towards each other, they won’t do it. We have to repair the fabric of their emotional connection first.
Only then is a couple really able to successfully resolve their problems.
Will you now fix communication with counseling or do you think you can solve the problems at home on your own? Tell us your opinion below in the comments section.
The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Dr. Lisa Bobby
The entire interview transcript is at: Dr. Lisa Bobby Interview – Relationship Patterns (and How to Overcome Them)
Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show
Listen to the entire interview on Blog Talk Radio: NetIP Spotlight- Live Your Potential: Relationship Patterns (and How to Overcome Them) – Dr. Lisa Bobby
Listen to the entire interview on iTunes