Finding the Truth in His Lies

Finding the Truth in His Lies Jasbina Ahluwalia  discusses with Dan Crum, author of Is He Lying to You? This book is very interesting. You advise readers not to look for truthful behavior. What do you mean by that, Dan? _____   Dan Crum When someone looks for truthful behavior, they’re going to find it. Here’s why. Truthful behavior is one of the easiest things to fake. If you were to ask people, “What does

Reasons Behind Mens Deception

Reasons Behind Mens Deception Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with Dan Crum, author of Is He Lying to You? You also lay out the following four reasons why men deceive in the first place. I’ll name them and then I’m going to ask you to explain and give examples of each one. The first reason ispreservation. The second reason is courteous. The third reason is privacy. The fourth is deception. Can you explain each of the four and give our listeners an

Types of Lies Men Tell

Types of Lies Men Tell Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with Dan Crum, author of Is He Lying to You? You explain in your book that there are two different types of lies that men tell. One type is deletion and the other is fallacy. Explain the two types to our listeners. _____   Dan Crum Types of Lies Men Tell: Deletion Deletion is when you leave something out. Let’s say that I ask you

Communication is Key: Relationships

One of the most common deal breakers that should be non-negotiable is communication. As Cija Black, author of 'Modern Love: The Grownup’s Guide to Relationships & Online Dating,' points out, communication is critical for the success of any relationship. Without it, flexibility and growth become impossible. Black shares her personal story of how the lack of communication in her first marriage was a deal breaker that led her to prioritize this

Defining Love By Our Parents Stories

Defining Love By Our Parents Stories Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with  Abby Rodman, author of  Should You Marry Him? A No-Nonsense, Therapist-Tested Guide to Not Screwing Up the Biggest Decision of Your Life how people define marriage based on what their parents show them: This is one of the last quotes that I’m going to share from your book. You have a chapter entitled, Theirs and Ours: Making Your Marriage Your Own. South Asian

Seek Therapy for Communication

Seek Therapy for Communication Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Pat Love, author of The Truth About Love: What one begins with is not what one needs to end with. That is very important. What are some of the most common reasons that you believe people seek couples counseling? What are some of the patterns that you see? _____    Dr. Pat Love Seek Therapy for Communication: “No Communication” The most common reason why people

Help People Listen: How To

Help People Listen: How To Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: In terms of a solution to this, share how you go about repairing the fabric of a relationship to deal with the issues that are coming up to the surface. _____    Dr. Lisa Bobby There are a number of interventions that we use in marriage counseling. One of the biggest ones is something that every single

Fix Communication with Counseling

Fix Communication with Counseling Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: It also helps us to have empathy for our partner. Someone coming at it with anger is one thing. But when you realize that they are feeling hurt or scared, then you can develop a sense of empathy for that. You might think, “Now I want to nurture that a little bit more.” I know that you do

Controlling of Communication

Controlling of Communication Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Nancy Slotnick, author of Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in Six Months or Less: The second category is controlling. Do you have any examples? _____   Nancy Slotnick I like using the examples of communication around dating because that’s where a lot of your personality is translated to the other person. You may not even realize it. Controlling of Communication: Scheduling Here is an

Dating Communication Rules

Dating Communication Rules Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Nancy Slotnick, author of Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in Six Months or Less: In your book, you explain another great analogy of a tennis game with respect to not being the one to call a guy until he has called first. Tell us about that. _____ Nancy Slotnick Dating Communication Rules: Volley Communication There is kind of a volley in communication. This goes