One of the most common deal breakers that should be non-negotiable is communication. As Cija Black, author of 'Modern Love: The Grownup’s Guide to Relationships & Online Dating,' points out, communication is critical for the success of any relationship. Without it, flexibility and growth become impossible. Black shares her personal story of how the lack of communication in her first marriage was a deal breaker that led her to prioritize this
Defining Love By Our Parents Stories Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with Abby Rodman, author of Should You Marry Him? A No-Nonsense, Therapist-Tested Guide to Not Screwing Up the Biggest Decision of Your Life how people define marriage based on what their parents show them: This is one of the last quotes that I’m going to share from your book. You have a chapter entitled, Theirs and Ours: Making Your Marriage Your Own. South Asian
Seek Therapy for Communication Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Pat Love, author of The Truth About Love: What one begins with is not what one needs to end with. That is very important. What are some of the most common reasons that you believe people seek couples counseling? What are some of the patterns that you see? _____ Dr. Pat Love Seek Therapy for Communication: “No Communication” The most common reason why people
Help People Listen: How To Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: In terms of a solution to this, share how you go about repairing the fabric of a relationship to deal with the issues that are coming up to the surface. _____ Dr. Lisa Bobby There are a number of interventions that we use in marriage counseling. One of the biggest ones is something that every single
Fix Communication with Counseling Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: It also helps us to have empathy for our partner. Someone coming at it with anger is one thing. But when you realize that they are feeling hurt or scared, then you can develop a sense of empathy for that. You might think, “Now I want to nurture that a little bit more.” I know that you do
Controlling of Communication Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Nancy Slotnick, author of Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in Six Months or Less: The second category is controlling. Do you have any examples? _____ Nancy Slotnick I like using the examples of communication around dating because that’s where a lot of your personality is translated to the other person. You may not even realize it. Controlling of Communication: Scheduling Here is an
Dating Communication Rules Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Nancy Slotnick, author of Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in Six Months or Less: In your book, you explain another great analogy of a tennis game with respect to not being the one to call a guy until he has called first. Tell us about that. _____ Nancy Slotnick Dating Communication Rules: Volley Communication There is kind of a volley in communication. This goes
Partner Interaction: How to Improve Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Craig Martin, author of Elemental Love Styles: What else is interesting about your book, Elemental Love Styles, is that you have dialogue between people throughout the book exhibiting different elemental styles, and staying true to their elemental self, you suggest ways to improve the way they interact with their partners. Similarly, you have questions that you field from people where your answers suggest, “From
Distance Improves Communication Jasbina Ahluwalia Do you tend to see different issues in couples where one person was born and raised in the US and the other abroad, possibly India or another South Asian country versus both people being born and raised in the same country? Is there anything you’ve noticed in terms of patterns along those lines? _____ Parijat Deshpande Yes, I have noticed something. What I noticed was actually surprising. Distance
Issues of Arranged Versus Love Marriage Jasbina Ahluwalia You mentioned that MySahana sees people anywhere from their 20s in the early stages to 50s and 60s. I’m wondering if you see different issues in couples who had “arranged” marriages versus couples in “love” marriages. Are there different issues or patterns that you see with one vis-a-vis the other? _____ Parijat Deshpande Few Differences of Issues of Arranged Versus Love Marriage I don’t think
