Distance Improves Communication

Jasbina Ahluwalia

Do you tend to see different issues in couples where one person was born and raised in the US and the other abroad, possibly India or another South Asian country versus both people being born and raised in the same country?

Is there anything you’ve noticed in terms of patterns along those lines?


Parijat Deshpande

Yes, I have noticed something. What I noticed was actually surprising.

Distance Improves Communication Pre-Marriage

The couples where both people were from different countries were better at talking about their differences early on.

People who were both from the same place tended to assume that the other person was much more similar to them than they actually were.

Those conversations of, “What do you feel about traditions? How do you feel about raising children? How do you feel about spending money?” happened much later, from my experience working with couples and the inquiries that we get from MySahana.

That seems to be what’s going on, which was really surprising to me. It seems to be the trend that we’re seeing.


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The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Parijat Deshpande.

The entire interview transcript is at: Parijat Deshpande Interview: A Clinical Psychologist On Indian Dating & Relationships

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