Self-Awareness Attracts The Right Partner Jasbina Ahluwalia That is very interesting. Do you have any thoughts based on your experience as a counselor with respect to how to assess compatibility before making that commitment and entering marriage? _____ Parijat Deshpande Yes. The best way to do that first, from my experience, is that the more self-aware you are, the better you’re going to be at choosing the person who is right for you.
Distance Improves Communication Jasbina Ahluwalia Do you tend to see different issues in couples where one person was born and raised in the US and the other abroad, possibly India or another South Asian country versus both people being born and raised in the same country? Is there anything you’ve noticed in terms of patterns along those lines? _____ Parijat Deshpande Yes, I have noticed something. What I noticed was actually surprising. Distance
Issues of Arranged Versus Love Marriage Jasbina Ahluwalia You mentioned that MySahana sees people anywhere from their 20s in the early stages to 50s and 60s. I’m wondering if you see different issues in couples who had “arranged” marriages versus couples in “love” marriages. Are there different issues or patterns that you see with one vis-a-vis the other? _____ Parijat Deshpande Few Differences of Issues of Arranged Versus Love Marriage I don’t think
What is The Biggest Issue in South Asian Couples? Jasbina Ahluwalia You mentioned these parallel lives. From what I understand, you see it even more so in Indian (South Asian) couples. Since you’ve counseled couples from a wide range of cultural backgrounds, I’m wondering if you’ve noticed any other marital issues, without over generalizing, that tend to be more common to South Asians than non-South Asians. _____ Parijat Deshpande Biggest Issue in South
Patterns Leading to Divorce Jasbina Ahluwalia I’m looking forward to hearing the answer to this one. The third issue is, “Why did we get a divorce?” I’m going to put one more question on top of that. I’m wondering if you’ve noticed any recurring patterns in relationships that do culminate in divorce. _____ Parijat Deshpande The first part was, “Why did we get a divorce?” There are so many reasons why people get
Sarah Showfety Interview - Roadmap To Get Off The Dating Treadmill “Roadmap to Get Off the Dating Treadmill” Jasbina Ahluwalia interviews Sarah Showfety Sarah Showfety is a New York-based author, transformational life coach and speaker. Her debut memoir, Dating by the Books: One Blundering Singleton’s Search for Love in the Self-Help Aisle, chronicles her misadventures taking the advice of a different dating guidebook each month in a quest to find love. Dating
Michelle Talbert & Ricardo Kingsbury Interview - Guide To Online Dating “Guide to Online Dating” Jasbina Ahluwalia interviews Michelle Talbert and Ricardo Kingsbury Michelle Y. Talbert and Ricardo Kingsbury met online a week before Valentine's Day. They celebrated Valentine's Day together, had a whirlwind love affair and by Easter were asking, "What just happened?" Well, they dusted themselves off, realized that collectively they have almost 20 years of online dating experience and
5 Steps To Take When Talking About Your Relationship Jasbina Ahluwalia That’s interesting. I thought it was a great point that you made. If you believe that your partner has changed, chances are that you have as well. The second issue I’d like you to address for our listeners is how to talk about sensitive topics like money, sex, children and religion without fighting. _____ Parijat Deshpande There are so many hot-button topics
People Change in Relationships Jasbina Ahluwalia So you have a perspective from that wide range. I think that’s very helpful. In preparation for this interview, I asked Parijat beforehand to share with me some of the most common issues that MySahana encounters with respect to marital issues. I’d like to share with our listeners a few of the issues Parijat identified one by one. Then I will ask Parijat to share with our
Courting Women: How to Do It Online Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Julie Spira and Dr. Dale Koppel: Do you have any advice for them in terms of courting and approaching women online? Do either of you have anything to share with our male listeners along those lines? _____ Dr. Dale Koppel Courting Women: The Special Emails I was especially appalled by men who would send what were entirely formulated emails. They were very long.
