Still Single: 2 Reasons Why

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Brian Howie, author of How to Find Love in 60 Seconds: I know that the topic of the 50 shows is, why do you think everyone is still single?

Having done 49 shows, why do you think everyone is still single?



Brian Howie

2 Reasons You Are Still Single

  1. Women’s Independence and Men’s Sensitivity
  2. Rise in Online Dating

Still Single: Gender Roles

At its core, the women want the men to try harder and the men want the women to make it easier.

I believe that there has been a rise over the last 10 years in the independence and the masculine energy of women. The men have sort of become more sensitive and afraid.

That has thrown things out of whack. It has led to either the inapproachability of women or the failure of men to step up their game to meet that.

Still Single: Online Dating

The second part of that equation is that there has been a rise in online dating and social media.

People have learned to hide behind their profiles, devices and Facebook pages.

They’re not forced to engage or interact anymore. That really has led to a lot of these sparks that I talked about earlier not happening because people are not interacting in a fashion like that did 10, 15 or 20 years ago.


Jasbina Ahluwalia

Still Single: Focus on Online Presence

That’s interesting. You’re almost rushing through your day to get home and get online. Meanwhile, you’re missing all of these opportunities throughout the day.

You’re so focused on just rushing through things to get to your computer and do online dating.


Brian Howie

Still Single: Affirmation for Approach

That’s right. People need some sort of affirmation, some sort of yes, some sort of signal to be approached.

If you go to a bar now on a Friday night at 11:00 and half of the bar is on Tinder in the bar. They need some sort of signal that it’s okay to interact, engage, talk and say hello.

That’s just gone the wrong way.


Tell Us:

Do you think these two reasons are the cause of why you are still single? What are you going to do to make a change? Tell us below in the comments section.


The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Brian Howie

The entire interview transcript is at: Brian Howie Interview – How to Find Love in 60 Seconds

Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show

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