[VIDEO] controllingJasbina gives 3 tips on how to stay empowered, while not coming off as too controlling.

In this video, Jasbina addresses the question: I’m often criticized by men I date because I come across too controlling.  Is there a way to maintain my integrity as a powerful woman without being perceived as controlling? 


Jasbina Ahluwalia

As a matchmaker and dating coach to highly selective men and women, this question comes up frequently.


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3 things to keep in mind:

  1. From your experience with first dates, how well do you think each guy actually knows you after just the first date?  It can be difficult to truly know another multi-dimensional person after just a single date.  The process of getting to know someone can be analogized to peeling back the many layers of an onion.
  2. Instant chemistry may not be as great a tell-tale sign of potential as you might think.  At times, instant chemistry may be based on no more than repeating patterns from your past, some of which will not serve you well in the long-term.
  3. Also keep in mind that some guys who may be great partner material are just not as great daters. On extreme ends of the continuum, a player with a lot of dating practice,  motivated to tell you exactly what you want to hear,  may very well make a better first impression than a less experienced commitment minded guy who may just be nervous during a first interaction.


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Bottom line is that you may be missing out on some great guys by limiting your assessment of a guy’s potential exclusively to what you learn during your first interaction.


What do you think?

What should women do to not be perceived as too controlling? Share your thoughts in the comments below.


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