know second dateIn this video, Jasbina addresses the question: I feel like I know instantly if I want a second date, but people tell me I’m too quick to judge.  What do you think? 

[VIDEO] How well do you really know your date? Jasbina explains the pitfalls of judging men too quickly.

 

Jasbina Ahluwalia

As a matchmaker and dating coach to highly selective men and women, this question comes up frequently: am i too quick to judge to want a second date?

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3 things to keep in mind.

  1. From your experience with first dates, how well do you think each guy actually knows you after just the first date?  It can be difficult to truly know another multi-dimensional person after just a single date.  The process of getting to know someone can be analogized to peeling back the many layers of an onion.
  2. Instant chemistry may not be as great a tell-tale sign of potential as you might think.  At times, instant chemistry may be based on no more than repeating patterns from your past, some of which will not serve you well in the long-term.
  3. Also keep in mind that some guys who may be great partner material are just not as great daters. On extreme ends of the continuum, a player with a lot of dating practice,  motivated to tell you exactly what you want to hear,  may very well make a better first impression than a less experienced commitment minded guy who may just be nervous during a first interaction.

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Bottom line is that you may be missing out on some great guys by limiting your assessment of a guy’s potential exclusively to what you learn during your first interaction. Don’t be too quick to judge if you want a second date.

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What do you think?

Do you have any advice regarding ‘I Know Right Away If I Want A Second Date. Is That Fair?’ Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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