Lower Standards Help Find the Perfect Partner? Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Lori Gottlieb – Author of the book Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough: How interesting. I found a quote in your book particularly compelling. I would love to share the quote with our listeners and then have you expand. You wrote, “When happily married women told me what they thought was important as you get older, similar themes emerged.