Internal Dialogue: Discover You
Caller One asks Dhru Beeharilal: Yes, okay. I have another question. You mentioned following your interests and passions. I strongly believe in that, too.
What if people don’t necessarily realize or have an idea of what they’re interested in or passion about? They say, “I don’t know what I’m passionate about.”
I’m curious as to how I can reply to those people as well as figuring it out for myself, too.
That’s a great question. That comes up a lot.
Unfortunately, that question could take days or months to answer. I can give you a short answer.
Internal Dialogue: Personal Reflection
That personal reflection time that I mentioned earlier will be key to that.
Internal Dialogue: Society Norms
In today’s world,
- We’re pushed to go to school.
- When we finish high school, we’re pushed to go to college.
- When you finish college, sometimes you get pushed to go to grad school, med school or law school.
There is no real time to reflect and think, “Do I really want to do this? What do I really want to do?”
There’s not a lot of room for that, especially in our culture. It’s very go, go, go.
Internal Dialogue: Life Plan
People say, “You’re successful? Get married.”
There’s no room to say, “Let me take a day or a month to figure out what I want to do.”
That 15 or 20 minutes that you take every day for reflection time will allow you more insight into your own psyche and what you want to do.
Your mind will wander for a while. It’s a meditation type thing. It’s not purely meditation because you’re letting your mind go a little bit.
You relax and reset. That alone will allow you to get more clarity as far as what y<h2> eally want to do.
Internal Dialogue: Discover Hobbies
Another idea that I tell my clients is that there might be something that you enjoy doing, like a hobby.
Not all hobbies can be professions, but if you have a hobby that you really enjoy, ask yourself what it is about that hobby that you enjoy.
If you have several hobbies, try to find something in common, or a base at the core of those hobbies.
Internal Dialogue: Hobbies Into Careers
Ask yourself, “Is there a career in this that I could do?” If not, then that’s fine. You can keep looking. It’s definitely a question worth answering.
There is a reason that you have these hobbies. There is a reason that we all have our hobbies and interests.
Our internal dialogue knows that answer. We just have to engage that dialogue.
Internal Dialogue: For Me or You
Yes. I’m sorry, I have one more follow-up question. You said something that triggered my interests. Now I’m in reflection time. What comes up is maybe what I think I want, but then also what I was taught to want.
I struggle sometimes personally with that.
Do I really want this or do I want this because that’s what everyone else is doing and it’s what I was taught when I was younger? Do you have any advice on how to know the difference between them?
Internal Dialogue: Ask Yourself
Ask the same questions you asked just now.
- Why do I want this?
- What would this accomplish?
- What would getting this degree, certification or job accomplish in my life?
- Can I see myself being happier with this thing in my life?
If I can see myself being happy with it, then okay. That’s great.
I might also think,
- I don’t know.
- I can go either way.
- Is it really something that I want
- Is it something that my parents want?
- Is it something that my friends all have?
- Do I think it would be nice to have so that I can have a conversation piece?
Internal Dialogue: Friend’s Circle
That’s also something that happens sometimes.
We all have friends who have certain things. When they have them and we don’t, we feel left out.
It’s natural. It’s human nature. That’s something you have to ask yourself.
That’s the internal dialogue. If you create that dialogue with yourself, you will be able to engage yourself.
You will think, “What do I really want? What’s really important to me versus what’s important to everyone else in my life?”
Internal Dialogue: Reflect
Okay. I guess I have some reflecting to do.
We all do.
Have you ever engaged in internal dialogue to focus on what you really want? Share your discoveries with us in the comments section below.
The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Dhru Beeharilal.
The entire interview transcript is at: Dhru Beeharilal NetIP (Network of Indian Professionals) Interview – Being True to You
Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show
Listen to the entire interview on Blog Talk Radio: NetIP Spotlight- Live Your Potential