Dating Mistake: Hearing Wedding Bells Soon

Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with Christie Hartman, author of Changing Your Game: A Man’s Guide to Success with WomenFind The Love of Your Life Online:

The concrete examples were helpful. The next one is mistake number nine. It is, you plan your wedding after your first date. I think this one is relatively commonplace. Tell us about that.



Dr. Christie Hartman

When a woman is planning her wedding after the first date, when you meet someone you really like and you click, it’s easy to start thinking,

“I wonder what it would be like to have a future with this person. I wonder what our kids would look like.” Sometimes your mind just goes there. There is nothing wrong with that. Some women just take that far too seriously. I’ve heard women say, after meeting a guy and talking to them for an hour on one date,

“I’ve just met my future husband.” They’re serious. I think that you can certainly think, “I’ve met someone with great potential here.”

But there is no way that you will know that soon if that person has true future potential. You have to really get to know them. I know that sounds obvious but sometimes it’s very easy to get caught up in that initial chemistry. Then you get too attached. You start ignoring all the bad signs.

Then everything goes downhill from there. I urge women to slow down. If you feel really optimistic about a guy, that’s great. Keep it to yourself. Don’t start moving too quickly. Don’t start questioning him about where the relationship is going. Just sit back and see if your instincts are actually correct.


Tell Us:

Have you gotten caught up hearing wedding bells soon in your relationship? What happened? Leave a comment in the comments section below.


The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Christie Hartman.

The entire interview transcript is at: Christie Hartman Interview – A Man’s Guide to Success with Women

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