(3:16): Hello everyone and welcome to Intersections Match’s Talk Radio, a monthly holistic lifestyle show focused on the continual evolution into the best versions of our authentic selves. We and our guests discuss relationships and health and wellness, each of which contributes to meaningful and fulfilling lives.
This is Jasbina, your host. I’m a former practicing lawyer and the founder of Intersections Match, the only elite national personalized matchmaking company focused on singles of South Asian descent nationwide in the country.
I’m very excited to welcome Parijat Deshpande to our show tonight. Parijat is a psychology lecturer at UC Berkley and a mental health consultant who has counseled children, families, couples, groups, adults and teenagers from a wide range of cultural backgrounds.
As the Founder and Executive Director of a South Asian mental health non-profit called MySahana, she is mobilizing South Asians to educate themselves about mental health, thereby empowering them to make informed decisions and choices with respect to their emotional lives. I had the pleasure of meeting Parijat a couple of months ago when we both spoke at a seminar for South Asians and communication within relationships. I’m very excited to welcome Parijat here tonight. Welcome, Parijat.
(4:36): Thanks so much. It’s great to talk to you again, Jasbina.
(4:41): It’s a pleasure to have you on. As a professional dating coach and matchmaker focused on singles of South Asian descent, I’m fascinated by insights and perspectives regarding relationships looked at with a cultural lens.
Since your organization, MySahana, likewise focuses on South Asians, I’d love to explore some of the insights you’ve encountered, both to increase awareness among singles who are interested in meeting perspective life partners as well as people in relationships who would love to further improve the connection they share with their partners. Parijat, what are the demographics of the people who typically seek MySahana services with respect to marital issues in particular?
(5:20): Marital issues are one of the many things that MySahana addresses. It’s actually one of the most common inquiries that we get. We seem to get these questions and inquiries from people who are around the 25 to 35 year-old range where they’re trying to settle down. They’re trying to find somebody. They’re just barely entering into a committed relationship or just barely married.
Then we also get a lot of inquiries from people who are in the 50 to 60 year-old range who have been married for a long time. Maybe their children have just moved out and getting married now. They’re reevaluating where their marriage is at this point in life.
(6:05): So you have a perspective from that wide range. I think that’s very helpful. In preparation for this interview, I asked Parijat beforehand to share with me some of the most common issues that MySahana encounters with respect to marital issues.
I’d like to share with our listeners a few of the issues Parijat identified one by one. Then I will ask Parijat to share with our listeners some of the best ways to resolve each of these issues. The first issue that I’d like to ask Parijat to address is, “Why did my partner change after we got married?”