Bad Attitude Towards Dating?

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Christine B. Whelan, author of Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women: In your book, Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women, you provide four empowering tips to SWANS. I would love to read each of the four, one by one, and have you expound.

The first tip you share is that success isn’t what’s holding you back in your dating life, but your bad attitude might be. Tell us about that.


Dr. Christine Whelan

Bad Attitude Towards Dating is a Distraction

Often times, women say to me, “I’m down on my luck on dating. It’s because men are intimidated by me. It’s because I’m just too smart for these guys.”

It’s a distraction. That’s not the reason.

Bad Attitude Towards Dating? Learn About Yourself

A young woman who is smart and successful simply needs to learn how to be herself and present her intelligence and success in a way that is attractive.

Dating isn’t about comparing resumes. It’s about finding someone who is compatible for you. Don’t dumb yourself down.

Change The Bad Attitude Towards Dating

I hear so many women say, “I’m a doctor but when I go out to a bar, I pretend to be a flight attendant.” Why would you do that?

  • First of all, it’s insulting to flight attendants.
  • Second of all, that’s not who you are.

Bad Attitude Towards Dating? Just Be Yourself

You don’t want a man to fall in love with a fake version of you. You want a guy who really loves you for you.

Think of that as a great screening mechanism. There are plenty of guys out there who are interested in smart, successful women. If the guy that you’re chatting with isn’t, move on to one that is.


Tell Us:

Did you once have a bad attitude towards dating? What did you do to overcome it? Share with us in the comments section below.


The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Dr. Christine Whelan

The entire interview transcript is at: Dr. Christine Whelan Interview – Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women

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