What Do You Want?

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dhru Beeharilal: From your experience and expertise in professional and personal development, what is the top most thing that you could be neglecting that could improve your life dramatically? What might that be?

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Dhru Beeharilal

A lot of people don’t realize it, but they neglect themselves.

 

What Do You Want? Set Time Aside

Look at everyone’s day. Take a look at your Google calendar or your work calendar.

Tell me how many events you have in there that are just for yourself. What time do you have set aside for yourself in those calendars?

I can guarantee you that most people don’t have any time set aside for themselves, even just for reflection.

 

What Do You Want? Dating Life

Many times, I have clients who will say,

  • How do I know what to talk about on a date?
  • How do I know what this girl wants to talk about?
  • I feel like I’m going to be boring to this girl.

My answer is always the same. Why do you think you’re going to be boring?

 

What Do You Want? Your Partner Should Align With You

If you’re interested in it then it doesn’t matter if they’re interested in it or not.

That’s the whole point of dating. It’s to figure out who is a good match.

If that person is not interested in what you’re interested in then you’ve weeded them out.

That’s not a bad thing. That’s a good thing. You’re not wasting your time or their time.

 

What Do You Want? Do That!

Do what you want to do. Go out to places that you want to go to.

Don’t think, “Where do girls or guys hang out? I’m going to go there.”

If you don’t have an interest in being there, you’re not going to be happy there. You’re not going to look happy.

When you talk to someone then they’re going to see that you’re not having a good time there.

Why would you want to have a bad time just to say, “I might meet someone there?”

 

What Do You Want? Take Chances

My advice is to take chances. Experience new things all the time.

I’m not saying not to do that. If you don’t have an interest in doing something, don’t do it. Don’t waste your time. Time is so precious.

You could be doing something so much more fun.

Chances are, other people will be doing those fun things too that you can share interests with. If you meet someone there, those will be the bonds that last.

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Tell Us:

What do you want to do? What time do you dedicate to yourself? Tell us in the comments section below.

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The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Dhru Beeharilal.

The entire interview transcript is at: Dhru Beeharilal NetIP (Network of Indian Professionals) Interview – Being True to You

Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show

Listen to the entire interview on Blog Talk Radio: NetIP Spotlight- Live Your Potential [Being True to You - Dhru Beeharilal]

Listen to the entire interview on iTunes

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