Subconscious Effect on Dating

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Debi Berndt, author of Let Love In: It’s a pleasure to have you. As a professional dating coach and matchmaker, I’m fascinated by insights and perspectives regarding relationships.

I’ve thoroughly enjoyed reading your book and would love to explore some of the insights that you shared.

To begin with, what prompted you to write this book in the first place?



Debi Berndt

I always get that question.

I was single until I was 41. I started writing the book before I met my man.

I was in the corporate world. I was unhappy with what I did for a living. I struggled with love my whole life.


Subconscious Effect on Dating: Hypnotherapy

Fate stepped in and I was laid off from my corporate job. I went to hypnotherapy school. Through that, I learned about the subconscious mind.

I’ve done other holistic healing techniques before but I had never really understood how it all works together.

When I went to hypnotherapy school, it gave me that formal training that I needed.


Subconscious Effect on Dating: Holding Back

I realized that I was the one who was holding me back from love. There was something in me that was stopping love from flowing.

I worked on my subconscious. I came out of hypnotherapy school and I was a man magnet. I had men everywhere.

I started working with clients and they started meeting people right away.

After the worst heartaches, they would come into my office crying, “Another jerk broke up with me.” This was men and women.


Subconscious Effect on Dating: The Book to Help

I would see such great results. I thought, “I don’t think anyone knows that this subconscious thing really affects our relationships.” That’s what inspired me to write the book.

I’ve always wanted to write a book. Since I was little, I was writing something. Writing is a passion of mine.

I saw how much I suffered and how single people that I worked with would get so frustrated with themselves and the single life. They want to meet that special person.


Subconscious Effect on Dating: Take Control

I found an easy way that makes sense that really gets you back in control. That’s why I wrote the book.

I want everyone to find true love. I used the tools in the book and that’s how I met my amazing man. I want everyone to have this. I know what it’s like when you’re frustrated. I needed to do something.


Tell Us:

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The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Debi Berndt

The entire interview transcript is at: Debi Berndt Interview – Guide To Allow True Love Into Your Life

Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show

Listen to the entire interview on Blog Talk Radio: Let Love In