Online Dating Profile Mistake!

Jaki Sabourin asks Jasbina Ahluwalia: I have a question that I’m curious about. I hear this a lot.

For women who are looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage, do you put that in your profile? Is that a pitfall for women?

They want to indicate that but maybe they’re not supposed to.



Jasbina Ahluwalia

Online Dating Profile Mistake: No Rules

I’m not a big fan of black and white rules.

I don’t say, “Every profile needs to have this but can’t have this.”

If you are commitment-minded, I think what you say about yourself and what you would do together will reveal it.

We’ll get into the kind of pictures that you present.


Online Dating Profile Mistake: Right Effort

Don’t leave all the interests blank. If you put some level of seriousness into it, that will reveal to a guy that you’re serious about this.

You don’t want to swing the pendulum and say, “I’m looking for marriage and kids.” I don’t think that’s necessary.


Online Dating Profile Mistake: Interaction

Again, we can’t short circuit time and interaction. I think that will reveal itself.

You don’t need to feel that you should put it all on the table right away.


Online Dating Profile Mistake: Fear

For this age group of women mid-thirties and up, sometimes I find that guys are sensitive to, “Is she just looking for a sperm donor?”

You don’t want to make a guy feel that anyone will do and you’re looking for some guy to fill a space in your life.

I don’t think adding a line of, “I’m looking for marriage and kids,” is necessary.

I think the way you present yourself will reveal that and the way that you interact thereafter will reveal it as well.


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The above is an excerpt from Jaki Sabourin’s interview with Jasbina Ahluwalia

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