Men Lack Confidence in Dating

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Brian Howie, author of How to Find Love in 60 Seconds: This is interesting. You wrote the book and then you went on tour. You’re experimenting with the singles.

Have your views changed at all since writing the book and having seen what people are saying out there?



Brian Howie

I’m still single myself so I’ve learned a lot about myself. I’m surprised, and I probably shouldn’t be, how men’s confidence is really shattered.

Most Men Lack Confidence

I will say that 10% of men are naturally confident enough to approach any woman, but most of those guys are jerks.

Men Lack Confidence, Women Need to Create the Environment

There’s another much larger pool of men who can be confident if the woman creates an environment where that confidence can flourish.

I believe that most men can be confident, but for whatever reason, they’ve lost that along the way.

Men Lack Confidence, Take Chances in Dating

That needs to be repaired by them taking chances and not being afraid. They have to get outside of their comfort zone, not be afraid of rejection and go for it.

On the flip side, the women need to know that not every man that approaches you is going to hurt you. Not every man is going to be a jerk.

It really is about both sides learning to let their guard down, keep moving forward, keep dating and keep trying.


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The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Brian Howie

The entire interview transcript is at: Brian Howie Interview – How to Find Love in 60 Seconds

Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show

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