Electricity Attraction in Relationships

Kristina Lynn asks Jasbina Ahluwalia: I think that’s a great point. I think this next question is a great one for you, Jasbina.

This gal says, “Do I need to feel that energy with someone to know that he’s the one? I’ve always chosen my past partners based on the electricity between us. It’s not necessarily sexual, but that energy that you feel when you’re connected with someone.

I haven’t chosen a reproductive-worthy mate yet. I’m starting to date online. I’m wondering if I should rely on this factor anymore.”

I think it’s an excellent question. When you look at the Eastern approach, I’m wondering if there’s as much of an emphasis on that.

Maybe you can tell us your thoughts.

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Jasbina Ahluwalia

I think that the listener’s awareness is raised. That’s going to be really well serving. Kudos to her for realizing that.

Electricity Attraction in Relationships: Arranged Marriage

We’ve all heard the definition of insanity. It’s doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

She is already beginning to change her results by raising her awareness of that. In the traditional arranged marriage situation, this would not be relevant.

The idea of electricity and spark would not have relevance in the traditional arranged marriage.

The process that I’ve designed is not for arranged marriage. It’s what I believe is the blending of both the East and the West.

Electricity Attraction in Relationships: Timing

I do believe that attraction and chemistry have a place. I don’t believe that it has to be instantaneous or something that reveals itself on a first date.

I’ve seen many examples of how someone has grown in attraction and sparks, and also how it’s diminished as time goes by.

This is an example where time and interaction reveals things.

Electricity Attraction in Relationships: Priorities

I don’t you should use that as a barometer as to whether or not you should get to know someone. I would replace that with the essentials. I would not make having electricity be one of the essentials.

I would go back to, “What are my long-term goals? What’s important to me? What are my core values? How do I approach life?”

These are the kinds of questions I would ask in terms of your essentials. Then I would let your essentials guide you more so than the electricity.