Dating The Kid In A Candy Store Type

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Catherine Cardinal, author of, Men to Run From: So You Can Find the Right One to Run to: What are some questions to ask yourself when you find yourself in a relationship with someone you suspect may be the Kid in the Candy Store?


Dr. Catherine Cardinal

Dating The Kid In A Candy Store: Attention Span

If you are aware that this guy is a Kid and has his focus all over, at the very least, does he respect your wishes and pay attention to you when he’s out with you?

At the very least, if you’re going to date a guy like this, I think it would be okay for you to say, “You’re out with me tonight. All attention is on me.”


Dating The Kid In A Candy Store: Future Plans

You want to ask yourself, is he someone that you can play with and not get hurt?

Have you seen any evidence to suggest that he has any of the same future goals that you do? Are you on the same page?

These are questions that you want to ask a Kid in a Candy Store.

Even if he says, “Yes, I’m into commitment,” his actions will tell you different.

He won’t be available on a Saturday night. The Kid in the Candy Store is very transparent. They’re everywhere.

Buddha said, “He who is everywhere is nowhere.” He’s not with you. These guys are pretty easy to read.


Dating The Kid In A Candy Store: Can You Change Him?

The concern that I have is for the woman who thinks she can change him.


Jasbina Ahluwalia

She’s someone who recognizes the situation but thinks she’s going to be the woman who will have him turn a new leaf or forget about everyone else.


Dr. Catherine Cardinal

That’s right. In short, if he has the makings of being this kind of heartbreaker and you entertain the notion that you are an incredible enough woman to coax him to change, I say good luck.


Dating The Kid In A Candy Store: Adopt His Lifestyle

Either accept the long odds against this guy to settle down or adopt his attitude about life and play.

If you like flashy, trendsetting things and don’t demand emotional availability, a relationship with this guy could work. I think of Samantha from Sex and the City. That’s the kind of attitude you would want to have with a guy like this.


Jasbina Ahluwalia

Dating The Kid In A Candy Store: Be Honest with Yourself

It comes down to being honest with yourself. You want to be honest with yourself about what you want and what you’re comfortable with, apart from the guy.


Dr. Catherine Cardinal

Avoid Dating The Kid In A Candy Store

Yes. As for the Kid in the Candy Store, a Samantha type of person would do well with him.

The other sub-type that I call Slick Willy is really a sexual addict. Just stay away from them. They’re the sleazy guys. That’s a version of this guy.

There’s just no reason to be with a guy like this. Keep your self-respect.


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The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Dr. Catherine Cardinal

The entire interview transcript is at: Catherine Cardinal Interview – Men To Run From To Find One To Run To

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