Date Multiple People
Jaki Sabourin asks Jasbina Ahluwalia: I want to talk about the dating rollercoaster.
How much dating should you do online? Should you date multiple people at once? What is a rule of thumb for empowered women?
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Absolutely Date Multiple People
Empowered women should absolutely date more than one man at a time. Why put all your eggs in one basket?
There are a couple of reasons why it is important to date this way until someone becomes a clear front runner.
Date Multiple People: Work Towards One
The goal is to have one. But to get there most effectively, dating multiple people at the same time is very wise.
Date Multiple People: Pressure
You don’t want to put pressure on someone early on.
Sometimes a woman gets super excited about a guy.
Maybe she just looked at his profile. She says, “Oh my God. Look at his profile. I can’t believe someone like this is online.”
She has no interest in anyone else. She goes 1,000 miles in the future in her head, based on a profile or a first date.
That puts a whole lot of pressure on him, you and a possible relationship that could be something special.
Date Multiple People: No Commitment
It’s well serving to have a couple of things going on at the same time with no commitment from anyone.
It also helps you hone in on what’s important to you.
Date Multiple People: Learn About Yourself
You will learn more about yourself and how the different guys make you feel.
Until you are at a point where you want to be mutually exclusive with someone, I think it is wise to date multiple people.
Date Multiple People: Understanding
I think it’s understood online that people are seeing other people.
Let’s say someone is pushing back on that at a time when you think it’s inappropriate.
Date Multiple People: Warning Signs
You haven’t even met a guy and he’s asking you, “Are you seeing other people?” That is a bit of a warning sign.
Why is he so controlling at this early stage when you haven’t even met him yet?
You want to see what’s behind that.
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Tell Us:
Any tips for balancing dating multiple people? Share with us in the comments section below.
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The above is an excerpt from Jaki Sabourin’s interview with Jasbina Ahluwalia
The entire interview transcript is at:
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