South Asian Heart Center: The Need Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Ashish Mathur, Co-Founder and Executive Director of the South Asian Heart Center at El Camino Hospital: It’s exciting to have you on. What really led you to co-found the South Asian Heart Center? _____ Ashish Mathur South Asian Heart Center: The Heart Attack It was just a series of coincidences, really. It started when I had my heart attack at the age of
Dating Wisely: 5 Tips Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: Thank you. I appreciate you sharing all of your insights with us. I’m wondering if there is any last thought or take-home message you’d like to leave our listeners with. _____ Dr. Lisa Bobby Dating Wisely: Slowly and Open Minded If you’re dating: Go slow and be thoughtful about it. Keep an open mind. Make sure that
Why Arranged Marriages Work! Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: I absolutely agree. Our listeners consist of women and men of a variety of ages and ethnic backgrounds. That said, our matchmaking and dating coaching services are focused on South Asians, mainly Indians, who are choosing to opt out of arranged marriages. I’m wondering if, whether from your practitioner experience or while you were training and exposed to
Finding The One: 3 Tips Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: I love that. I can appreciate the value of reflective statements in terms of making someone feel understood. Sometimes we hear our partner say something and we automatically have a story about what they’re saying and meaning. If you do a reflective statement, in case you do get it wrong, there is that opportunity to course correct
[VIDEO] 3 HUGE Signs You Are In A Toxic Relationship This behavior isn't normal. And it isn't right, either. We've all had that one relationship that left us feeling more emotionally drained than satisfied. No matter how hard we try to make things work, nothing is enough. Even though you love your boyfriend and can't picture yourself without him, things have been super tense between you. He doesn't treat
Prevent Marital Issues: 3 Steps Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: Yes. I say that there really is no substitute for time and interaction with someone. I analogize it to an onion. Don’t be so fast to rush and want to know everything right away. Allow it to be a peeling back the layers of an onion as you get to know someone. When getting to know someone
Early Stages of Relationships Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: Don’t worry about being the first. You’re not giving anything up. You’re actually enhancing the relationship. I’m sure you’ve seen, the person who starts to do that is not necessarily always the same person. The other person will reciprocate. It shows how the dynamic of a relationship can be changed by just one person taking that step. Even
Help People Listen: How To Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: In terms of a solution to this, share how you go about repairing the fabric of a relationship to deal with the issues that are coming up to the surface. _____ Dr. Lisa Bobby There are a number of interventions that we use in marriage counseling. One of the biggest ones is something that every single
Fix Communication with Counseling Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: It also helps us to have empathy for our partner. Someone coming at it with anger is one thing. But when you realize that they are feeling hurt or scared, then you can develop a sense of empathy for that. You might think, “Now I want to nurture that a little bit more.” I know that you do
Attachment in Relationships Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Lisa Bobby, a Board Certified Life Coach: What do you think is at the root of the pre-marital problems that you see? _____ Dr. Lisa Bobby When it comes to that very common problem of the pursue/withdraw pattern, it is related to that sense of attachment. Attachment in Relationships: Glue Attachment is the glue that holds a relationship together. Whenever that attachment is disrupted
