Attraction Grows With Time

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Helen Fisher: Have you seen studies with respect to whether attraction can grow over time?

You have that first meeting with someone. It’s there or it’s not there. Is that something that can grow?



Dr. Helen Fisher

It not only can grow, but it does grow. The data we have is elegant.

Attraction Grows With Time: Singles In America

With Match, I do an annual study called Singles in America.

We don’t poll the Match population. We poll the American population.

It’s a representative sample based on the US Census.


Attraction Grows With Time: Delayed Love

One of the questions I ask is, “Have you ever initially not found someone attractive at all and eventually fallen in love with them?”

Every year that I ask it, over 35% of people say yes.


Attraction Grows With Time: The More You Know The More You Like

There is other data showing that, the more you get to know someone, the more you like them.

A wonderful study was done by a scientist. It was a group of students in a college environment.

On the first day of a particularly large class, they rated how attractive they thought everyone in the room was.


Attraction Grows With Time: Change in Opinion

Sure enough, the best looking people scored highest. Then they asked the same group of people towards the end of the semester who was most attractive and it changed entirely.

Some people who no one regarded as attractive initially then became attractive.

It’s because,

  • Now you’ve discovered that they have a wonderful sense of humor.
  • They’re very gracious with their comments.
  • They’re a likeable, funny, charming and educated person in spite of the fact that they might be a little too short, tall or heavy.


Some of the other people who were initially regarded as extremely attractive had lost a lot of their charm because they got to know them.


Tell Us:

Were you immediately attracted to your partner or did attraction grow with time? Drop us a line below in the comments section.


The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Dr. Helen Fisher.

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