Appreciate Your Date

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Marla Martenson, author of entitled Hearts on the Line: The Elusive Pursuit of Love in the City of Angels: There is a mentality of ruling out rather than ruling in. You have to work through the numbers.

Here is something that comes up a lot. I’ve spoken with other matchmakers and people have different ideas on this. I’d love to hear your opinion.

Do you think women should send a thank you email or text to a guy after a first date?


Marla Martenson

Absolutely. So few women do this.

Appreciate Your Date: Men Love It

When they do, I’ve had guys tell me the next day, “She called me to thank me or sent a text or email. No one ever does that.” They appreciate it.

The guy usually pays. Sometimes it’s very expensive. Even if they’re not going to see each other again, they want to be appreciated.

Appreciate Your Date: How He Feels

There is entitlement sometimes. Women think, “He should take me to an expensive dinner.”

Sometimes the guys end up feeling taken advantage of in that way. They get tired of it. They get frustrated.

Here they are, spending, spending, spending to try to find the right person. A little bit of appreciation goes a long way.

Appreciate Your Date: Real-Life Story

One time, a woman saw a guy for a first date. She wasn’t that interested. She said that she wasn’t going to see him again.

She said “yes” to another date because of one little thing that he did. He picked up her valet ticket. He paid her valet.

She said, “No one has ever done that. I was so impressed that I’m going to give him another chance.”


Jasbina Ahluwalia

It’s about taking the extra step for someone.


Marla Martenson

Yes. Some women are having a difficult time. It might be that the $8 for the valet is a lot for them. That really makes a big difference.


Tell Us:

Ladies, when you appreciate your date, how do you express yourself? Share with us in the comments section below.


The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Marla Martenson

The entire interview transcript is at: Marla Martenson Interview – Insights on Matchmaking & Dating

Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show

Listen to the entire interview on Blog Talk Radio: Hearts On The Line – Discussion with Marla Martenson

Listen to the entire interview on iTunes