Actively Find a Partner

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Nancy Slotnick, author of Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in Six Months or Less: I found a statement you made in your book particularly compelling. I’d love to share it with our listeners and then have you expand.

You state in your book, “Let me guess. You’ve been told countless times that ‘It always happens when you’re not looking.’ You hear stories about how, as soon as so-and-so threw in the dating towel and was resigned to the fact that she might be single forever, then bam! The perfect guy appeared. Stories like these are misleading.” Tell us about that, Nancy.


Nancy Slotnick

Actively Find a Partner: Don’t Leave it To Destiny

People always say, “It happens when you least expect it.”

The thing is, I was always expecting it when I was single. It still did happen for me. I understand what it meant by that.

Actively Find a Partner with Positive Energy

Sometimes, if you have too much negative attention on something then it doesn’t work.

If you’re down about it and say, “I’m never going to meet the right guy. Why is this always this way?” and you’re acting desperate, it won’t work.

Actively Find a Partner: Take Action!

But you do have to take action in your personal life in order to make something happen.

I think it’s misleading. It gives the idea that, if you just wait around and expect Prince Charming to come knocking at your door, that it will work. I don’t think that’s true.

I think that you do have to put in the work. You have to make it look like you’re not trying too hard.

Try to have fun with it along the way.


Tell Us:

What effort and work did you put in when you actively find a partner? Share with us in the comments section below.


The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Nancy Slotnick

The entire interview transcript is at: Nancy Slotnick Interview – Get Your Dream Man in Six Months or Less

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