Redefining Romance in Relationships

Denise Levy asks Jasbina Ahluwalia: We have some questions coming in. There is one thing I wanted to go back to.

Jasbina, you were talking about defining romance. A lot of times, what we see in today’s society is that romance is taken from movies and the media.

We blame Disney for our upsets. They set us up to believe in Prince Charming.

I wanted to touch on that for a minute. Some of the people I work with have this false idea of romance, which leads to a failure when it comes to a relationship.



Jasbina Ahluwalia

I think it’s a very disempowering thing to subscribe to the viewpoints of Disney and Madison Avenue on what should be romantic for us.

It’s like there is a checklist. Is there candlelight?

Yes, that’s romantic. I encourage people to redefine romance.


Redefining Romance in Relationships: Gestures

Romance is what’s important. A romantic gesture, in my mind, is someone recognizing what’s important to you and making some effort in that direction.

That could be anything.

It could be that your mother is important to you and he goes out of his way to drive there and fix her light. That is a romantic gesture.

To me, that would be far more valuable than receiving flowers.

There is nothing wrong with receiving flowers.

For someone else, maybe the flowers would be more meaningful.

A romantic gesture is when you recognize what’s important to the person that you’re with and then make some effort in that direction.


Denise Levy

Redefining Romance in Relationships: Society Norms

That speaks to what you said about redefining it versus society’s view.


Jasbina Ahluwalia

Yes, you’re redefining it on your own terms.


Denise Levy

Thank you so much. I just wanted to add that. Kristina, you have some questions coming in.


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The above is an excerpt from Kristina Lynn’s interview with Jasbina Ahluwalia.

The entire interview transcript is at: