Love Yourself For Better Relationship

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Dr. Catherine Cardinal, author of, Men to Run From: So You Can Find the Right One to Run to: There is another quote that follows on the heels of this. I’ll read it and then have you share with the audience.

“I couldn’t help but notice that, as my relationship with myself grew kinder and more loving, so too did the men who showed up in my life.”

You mentioned about having experiences and now being happily married. Tell us about this quote.



Dr. Catherine Cardinal

Love Yourself For Better Relationship: Self-Esteem

My first book is on self-esteem. I’m very proud of my first book. It’s gone into a bunch of languages. I get letters from all over the world.

Jasbina Ahluwalia

What is the title of that book, in case people want to check it out?


Dr. Catherine Cardinal

It’s called A Cure for the Common Life: The Cardinal Rules of Self-Esteem.

Love Yourself For Better Relationship: No Negative Friends

Rule number one is, don’t hang around people who make you feel bad about yourself.

The only reason that anyone would hang around someone who doesn’t think you’re the greatest thing in the world is because of low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is learned.


Love Yourself For Better Relationship: Compassion

In my own experience, as I learned more about how men operate and how they think through my personal and professional life, and as I became kinder on myself and realized it was okay that I hadn’t figured everything out quickly, I had compassion that no one ever taught me about men.

I went to Catholic school. My parents fought all the time. Where would I have learned a healthy way to communicate and how men think?

As I realized over time and learned it, I could have more compassion for myself. It took me a couple of relationships to find mine.

It’s like if someone says to you, “Here is some old plywood and a couple of rusty nails. Go out in the world and build a mansion.” You can’t build a mansion until you acquire all of the raw materials.


Love Yourself For Better Relationship: Forgiveness

As I forgave myself and loved myself more for my process and journey, as unique as it is, my relationships started reflecting that kind of love and acceptance back at me.

It’s very powerful when you love yourself and your journey for exactly what it is without comparing it to anyone else’s.


Jasbina Ahluwalia

You really can’t compare. It’s almost like apples and oranges. You don’t have the database to compare in any real way.


Dr. Catherine Cardinal

You said that perfectly. It’s exactly right.

Love Yourself For Better Relationship: Learn to Let It Go

If there are ladies and gentlemen listening, the first step toward anything is to let go of your shame and feeling of disappointment with any failures that you’ve had.

The way that everything fell together with your genetics, your childhood and your biology, you are a snowflake.

You are unique. Your journey is yours. Love it for its pluses and minuses. Just keep moving and learning.

Your life can change when you have that kind of self-acceptance.


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The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Dr. Catherine Cardinal

The entire interview transcript is at: Catherine Cardinal Interview – Men To Run From To Find One To Run To

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