Ex-Patriate Dating Concerns

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Lorii Abela, author of Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life: I think those are great points. I agree in terms of the picture.

Physical attraction certainly opens the doors. There is no question about that. But if there is nothing under the hood there, guys want more than that.

It’s the same with women. Substance is very important to commitment-minded guys.

I agree with what you said about the negative thinking. You can get swallowed up in commiserating and getting together for drinks to dish on how guys are jerks.

As I understand, you’ve been focusing on ex-patriates in your work. I would love for you to tell us the additional challenges involved for them in finding love.

You can also share how you define that word.



Lorii Abela

For those who don’t know what “ex-patriate” means, these are people who have moved here from another country.

We already know that the United States is multicultural. It’s a melting pot of all of those people who want to have greener pastures.


Ex-Patriate Dating Concerns: Everything Change

When you come over here aiming for work, it’s not only the thing that you worry about.  Every aspect of your life is going to change.

People wonder, “Where do I live? Where do I find work? How do I find friends?”

Eventually, you might wonder, “How can I find someone?” You are learning all of this and much more.


Ex-Patriate Dating Concerns: Language Barrier

Your audience is Southeast Asians. They already speak English. What if you don’t even know how to speak English? That’s tough.


Ex-Patriate Dating Concerns: Values and Religion

You also wonder, “What are their values? Will they be the same as mine?” For some of us, religion is one aspect of that.

If you are more open then you have more chances. How can you challenge yourself to be more open?


Ex-Patriate Dating Concerns: Age Factor

There are things that make it rough for someone who just moved here from another country. It’s different if you moved here when you were 12 years old.

Obviously, you’ve become adjusted. Let’s say that you are in your thirties or forties. It’s different.


Ex-Patriate Dating Concerns: American Lifestyle

I’m sure you’ve come across people who are scared. They don’t know how Americans feel about love.

Some Americans can be very up front. If you are coming from an Asian background, you might think, “Oh my God. Did they actually say that?” We have become so modest. We don’t toot our horns.


Tell Us:

Any ex-patriate readers? Ex-patriate dating concerns, did any of these issues come into play in your dating experience? Speak up and tell us your stories below in the comments section.


The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Lorii Abela

The entire interview transcript is at: Lorii Abela Interview – Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life

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