Evolution of Online Dating

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Julie Spira and Dr. Dale Koppel: Thank you for sharing that.

Julie, you wrote in your book, “My position as a cyber-dating expert encompassed over 250 dates in my 30s, 40s and 50s.” Tell us about any differences you found dating online in your 30s versus your 40s.



Julie Spira

Evolution of Online Dating: Internet Boom

(5:58): I think the biggest difference that I can share with you is that, when I first joined an online dating site in 1994, there weren’t a lot of people online. There weren’t even a lot of people with email addresses at that time.

There was a huge stigma associated with online dating. When I first signed up and put up my first profile in 1994, Match.com didn’t even exist yet.

I went on Love at AOL. That was my first introduction to online dating.

Evolution of Online Dating: Dating Pool

The dating pool was much smaller. I felt embarrassed. I said, “I can’t tell anybody I’m doing this. Isn’t this supposed to be for losers?” I kept my mouth shut because there really was a certain stigma associated with online dating.

Now, if you look at the online dating industry today, you’ll see that every single major media outlet did a piece on Valentine’s Day on online dating.

To have the phone ring constantly for quotes for online dating stories has now become a popular, regular way of living your life.

Evolution of Online Dating: New Norm

If you go on a date now, someone will say, “You had a date last night. What site did you meet him on?” That wouldn’t have happened 15 years ago.


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The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Julie Spira and Dale Koppel.

The entire interview transcript is at: Julie Spira – Dale Koppel Interview – Insights In Online Dating

Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show

Listen to the entire interview on Blog Talk Radio: Navigating Online Dating: Discussion with Dr. Dale Koppel & Julie Spira

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