Be Your Own Person and Spice it Up!

Jasbina Ahluwalia discusses with  Abby Rodman, author of  Should You Marry Him? A No-Nonsense, Therapist-Tested Guide to Not Screwing Up the Biggest Decision of Your Life the importance of living a life with passion:

I hear from men very often, “I want someone who is passionate about something in their lives.

I don’t want to be their whole world.” You can flip into living vicariously through someone else. Like you said, that’s not really truly living if it’s all vicarious.



Abby Rodman

Be Your Own Person and Spice it Up! – Men like authenticity

That’s not to say that you can’t share some of the same interests. As I’m talking about this, I realize I’m probably talking about younger women who may not have had the opportunity yet to find out some of the things that they really want to do.

This guy comes along. It all seems really great. They hitch on. One day, they wake up and realize that they didn’t do what they needed to do.

I think your point is an excellent one. Men, and anyone who is looking for a partner, is looking for someone who is their own person.

At first, it feels really great to someone that you’re so interested in them and what they do. Ultimately, they really want someone who brings their own life to the table.


Tell Us:

Sharing common interests in a relationship is fun and fulfilling, but what happens when it becomes a routine or is expected? What do you do to be your own person? Leave us a comment in the comments section below.


The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Abby Rodman.

The entire interview transcript is at: Abby Rodman Interview – Should I Marry Him: A Guide Not to Screw Up

Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show

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