Parijat Deshpande Interview: A Clinical Psychologist On Indian Dating & Relationships “Conversation with Marriage Family Therapist & Founder, MySahana” Jasbina Ahluwalia interviews Parijat Deshpande A few topics Parijat Deshpande addresses in this interview are: (6:05) People Change in Relationships (7:32) Talking About Your Relationship: 5 Steps (11:05) Patterns Leading to Divorce (14:30) Biggest Issue in South Asian Couples (15:57) Issues in Arranged Versus Love Marriage (17:38) Distance Improves Communication (18:58) Self-Awareness Attracts
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Self-Awareness Attracts The Right Partner Jasbina Ahluwalia That is very interesting. Do you have any thoughts based on your experience as a counselor with respect to how to assess compatibility before making that commitment and entering marriage? _____ Parijat Deshpande Yes. The best way to do that first, from my experience, is that the more self-aware you are, the better you’re going to be at choosing the person who is right for you.
Distance Improves Communication Jasbina Ahluwalia Do you tend to see different issues in couples where one person was born and raised in the US and the other abroad, possibly India or another South Asian country versus both people being born and raised in the same country? Is there anything you’ve noticed in terms of patterns along those lines? _____ Parijat Deshpande Yes, I have noticed something. What I noticed was actually surprising. Distance
Issues of Arranged Versus Love Marriage Jasbina Ahluwalia You mentioned that MySahana sees people anywhere from their 20s in the early stages to 50s and 60s. I’m wondering if you see different issues in couples who had “arranged” marriages versus couples in “love” marriages. Are there different issues or patterns that you see with one vis-a-vis the other? _____ Parijat Deshpande Few Differences of Issues of Arranged Versus Love Marriage I don’t think
What is The Biggest Issue in South Asian Couples? Jasbina Ahluwalia You mentioned these parallel lives. From what I understand, you see it even more so in Indian (South Asian) couples. Since you’ve counseled couples from a wide range of cultural backgrounds, I’m wondering if you’ve noticed any other marital issues, without over generalizing, that tend to be more common to South Asians than non-South Asians. _____ Parijat Deshpande Biggest Issue in South
Patterns Leading to Divorce Jasbina Ahluwalia I’m looking forward to hearing the answer to this one. The third issue is, “Why did we get a divorce?” I’m going to put one more question on top of that. I’m wondering if you’ve noticed any recurring patterns in relationships that do culminate in divorce. _____ Parijat Deshpande The first part was, “Why did we get a divorce?” There are so many reasons why people get
5 Steps To Take When Talking About Your Relationship Jasbina Ahluwalia That’s interesting. I thought it was a great point that you made. If you believe that your partner has changed, chances are that you have as well. The second issue I’d like you to address for our listeners is how to talk about sensitive topics like money, sex, children and religion without fighting. _____ Parijat Deshpande There are so many hot-button topics
People Change in Relationships Jasbina Ahluwalia So you have a perspective from that wide range. I think that’s very helpful. In preparation for this interview, I asked Parijat beforehand to share with me some of the most common issues that MySahana encounters with respect to marital issues. I’d like to share with our listeners a few of the issues Parijat identified one by one. Then I will ask Parijat to share with our