Testimonials —> [Client Success Story – Lawyer, San Francisco ]

Some of the biggest challenges I faced before working with Intersections Match were time and the inertia of jumping back into dating after ending with a previous relationship. And then also, I think just not having a lot of single friends, just not really having a support system when it came to dating.

I had in the past done the online app dating thing before, and then I had been in a relationship and after that, I just felt like I didn’t want to start from scratch. I just did not have the motivation to get back on the apps and try to start meeting people again that way. And so I think working with Intersections Match really kind of gave me the motivation to just get back out there because I think it was just feeling too daunting to do it on my own.

So I wanted to expand how I was going about my search beyond just using like the standard dating app.

With the online dating culture, it’s just very easy to swipe left or reject people instantly based on very superficial things. And I think the approach that Intersections Match encourages was really helpful and I think it is very different from what the inclination for most of us would be.

I think it’s easy in the modern dating world to just be dismissive of people very quickly; and I think when you’re open-minded, then you can really first give them a chance and then come back to what your priorities really are and reflect on maybe there’s these superficial things that at first I didn’t like, but then think about the things that really matter to you, and whether this person would be a good partner…

I think going through that process of really discussing and reflecting on what are the things that you prioritize in a partner forces you to reflect on what are the things that are important to you more broadly in life. I think that really helps give clarity. And I think I’ve sort of been applying all those things to my current relationship and things are going well.

I think the whole process of starting with self-reflection and having a good understanding of yourself and why you prioritize certain things is really important before you can be in a relationship with somebody else.

The whole idea of understanding what the other person’s trigger is was definitely a breakthrough for me; as well as self-reflection and realizing that you need to have a good understanding of yourself.

I experienced two breakthroughs through working with Intersections Match – one, understanding my partner’s triggers and needs and adapting to that; and two, the need to have a good understanding of yourself before entering a relationship.

I think when you make the decision to work with Intersections Match, it’s an investment and a commitment. And I think when you take that step, you place higher priority on dating, the process of searching for a partner and in general your personal life, and so I think as a result of that itself, it kind of automatically forces you to make the time that you need to.

So I think just the process of working with a matchmaker itself, results in placing higher priority on your personal life and your partnership…And I think from the coaching I learned not to react instantly, and instead think about where your partner is coming from and, like, why are they’re reacting the way they’re reacting to certain things – I think that’s also been really helpful.

Working with Intersections Match gave me that momentum because I think making the investment into the service just obviously like sort of helped jumpstart things…I think it was also just encouraging overall to have new avenues of meeting people through the introductions…And then I think the biggest thing was the support and in particular the coaching from Jasbina in terms of navigating different challenges through my dating experiences…And I think that’s something that I’ve been able to apply to other areas as well.

With the tailored introductions, I really liked the approach…The coaching support is an aspect I hadn’t really thought much about when I was signing up and I didn’t necessarily think it was something I would be using that much. But I think having somebody who has the experience and has seen a lot of different types of relationships and how they work and how couples navigate conflict, I think it’s really helpful to have guidance from somebody like that going through the process.

Intersections Match services helped my communication skills and ability to connect with potential partners in a number of ways: I think the guidance that Jasbina gave before I began the online portion of my search in terms of how to effectively message somebody for the first time was helpful because sometimes it can be daunting to send that first message when you match with somebody. So I think that was really helpful.

I think for me just having the guidance and the reassurance from somebody with expertise as I was navigating certain situations was the biggest thing.

Working with Intersections Match has been really positive – I think in particular being able to use the coaching with Jasbina and get feedback on the way that I was thinking through things and approaching them and having that reassurance from her was definitely very helpful and gave me more confidence…

Since I started working with Intersections Match, I’ve been in a relationship for the last five months. And during that time there have been a few different occasions where I have run into conflict with my partner and kind of not just because it’s been things I hadn’t encountered before and I didn’t really know the best way to kind of handle the situation. And talking to Jasbina in coaching, I think one of the most helpful things, she kind of helped me identify with that, like, in some of the conflicts, I was sort of triggering, like, something in the other person. And so it was causing him to react in a certain way. And I think that was very enlightening because then after having that conversation with her, it allowed me to, like better to kind of change my style of communicating around certain things so that it was not acting as a trigger and not causing conflict in a non-constructive way.

When I reached out to Jasbina a few times for coaching and shared very specifically with her the conflict that I was having with my partner where we weren’t able to constructively communicate about things, and her helping me resulted in much better communication around conflict areas with my partner.

In the last five months, there have been a couple times where I have had relatively major conflicts with my partner; and I think sometimes the inclination is just to like walk away from something and start fresh. But I think in those moments, I utilize the coaching with Jasbina and, you know, talking through it with her and getting her perspective really helped me kind of see things differently and make the decision to kind of stick with it and work on things rather than walk away from it…

I was having a couple major conflicts with my partner in over the last five months where part of me was tempted to just kind of not try to resolve it and just walk away from it. And I think in coaching with Jasbina one of she really, asked me to reflect on the positives of the relationship and then the negatives, and it became very clear to me that there were way, way more positives. So I think having that guidance and somebody to talk through it with really made a difference…The ongoing coaching has been really helpful because I met somebody relatively early on in the process of working with Intersections Match and being able to have access to the coaching when different issues came up and being able to talk through things was really important in getting past conflicts and the relationship progressing.

Coaching with Jasbina helped me understand my partner and more generally how men process and receive certain things in a different way, and that was just something I had not encountered before. So that really gave me insight and understanding into my partner and how I could be a better partner as well by understanding what his needs are.

I learned to recognize when something is a sensitive area for my partner, and am now more sensitive in how I talk about those issues, and also understand the reason behind his being reactive and learned how to not immediately be reactive in response.

Working with Intersections Match has been very positive given I was not in a relationship before and I am now; and I also think I’m better equipped and have the tools now to be able to navigate challenges in my relationship as they come up.

I think there’s definitely aspects of what I’ve learned through working with Intersections Match that I can apply to other areas. I’ve also applied that exercise of really reflecting on my values and priorities to my professional life and in terms of thinking about my career and what is the best fit for what I want in life, and the kind of work I want to be doing. I think there’s lots of different applications of the learnings.

I think the biggest thing is when I’ve been unsure if the way I’m handling something is the best way to handle it, getting guidance and reassurance through the coaching sessions has been really helpful.

I would definitely recommend Intersections Match’ services to others seeking meaningful connection because of its approach which encourages people to self-reflect and understand the things that are most important to them. And I also think that the open minded approach that Intersections Match encourages both with the online and offline dating helps people interested in getting past superficial things and really finding somebody where there’s a values connection.

I also think that it’s very valuable to have somebody supporting you through the whole process; and particularly I would emphasize the value of the coaching and just being able to have somebody with whom to talk through different challenges and conflicts and see things from another perspective that you may not be considering…

I have recommended Intersections Match to a few different people already.