Online Dating Profile Mistake!
Jaki Sabourin asks Jasbina Ahluwalia: I have a question that I’m curious about. I hear this a lot.
For women who are looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage, do you put that in your profile? Is that a pitfall for women?
They want to indicate that but maybe they’re not supposed to.
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Online Dating Profile Mistake: No Rules
I’m not a big fan of black and white rules.
I don’t say, “Every profile needs to have this but can’t have this.”
If you are commitment-minded, I think what you say about yourself and what you would do together will reveal it.
We’ll get into the kind of pictures that you present.
Online Dating Profile Mistake: Right Effort
Don’t leave all the interests blank. If you put some level of seriousness into it, that will reveal to a guy that you’re serious about this.
You don’t want to swing the pendulum and say, “I’m looking for marriage and kids.” I don’t think that’s necessary.
Online Dating Profile Mistake: Interaction
Again, we can’t short circuit time and interaction. I think that will reveal itself.
You don’t need to feel that you should put it all on the table right away.
Online Dating Profile Mistake: Fear
For this age group of women mid-thirties and up, sometimes I find that guys are sensitive to, “Is she just looking for a sperm donor?”
You don’t want to make a guy feel that anyone will do and you’re looking for some guy to fill a space in your life.
I don’t think adding a line of, “I’m looking for marriage and kids,” is necessary.
I think the way you present yourself will reveal that and the way that you interact thereafter will reveal it as well.
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Tell Us:
Have you committed this online dating profile mistake and scared people away? Tell us your stories in the comments section below.
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The above is an excerpt from Jaki Sabourin’s interview with Jasbina Ahluwalia
The entire interview transcript is at:
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