Striking the right balance between having standards and being open to potential matches is a journey of self-awareness and practical wisdom. By carefully selecting your deal breakers and reflecting on your own values and needs, you can navigate the complexities of dating with confidence. Remember, the goal is to find a partner who aligns with your core values while being flexible enough to embrace their imperfections. So, go on that date with a balanced mindset and open heart—your perfect match might be just around the corner!
Online Dating Precautions
Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Cija Black, author of in Modern Love: The Grownup’s Guide to Relationships & Online Dating: They are all compelling reasons. In terms of taking charge of your love life, it’s a great avenue to be able to do that.
Based on your experiences, do you feel that online dating is for everyone? Are there any exceptions?
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Cija Black
Online Dating Precautions: Taken Advantage Of
I think it’s a good option for a lot of people. However, there are some people who find that, in their life, people step on them and take advantage of them.
If they are easily duped, I don’t recommend it. I also don’t recommend it for people who haven’t really thought about what they’re looking for.
Those are the people where we read those horrible stories about.
Online Dating Precautions: Money
Someone is taken advantage of financially. It’s very easy to get sucked into those online romances if you’re not a little cautious or willing to step back.
Online Dating Precautions: Skepticism
When someone is schmoozing you and telling you all these wonderful things, you want to say, “Wait a minute. That seems a little sudden. I haven’t even met you in person.” You have to be willing to have a little bit of skepticism.
You can’t be completely skeptical of the process but you need to have a healthy dose of it.
If you’re overly trusting, I don’t think it’s right for you.
Online Dating Precautions: Boundaries
People like that need to protect themselves to some degree. It can be a dangerous process for people like that.
There are predators, unfortunately. You have to know when to say no. You have to set your boundaries and know your standards.
Never, under any circumstances, give money to people online. That still shocks me when people do that.
Online Dating Precautions: Safety First
If nothing else, it’s good for testing out a profile and safely checking things out, as long as you’re willing to hold back on giving money or making big promises.
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Tell Us:
Any online dating precautions you can share with us? Drop us a line in the comments section below.
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The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Cija Black
The entire interview transcript is at: Cija Black Interview – Modern Love: The Grownup’s Guide to Relationships & Online Dating
Listen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show
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