Testimonials —> [Client Success Story – Software Engineer, San Francisco Bay Area]

Before working with Intersections Match I think I had just gotten to a point that it felt like on my own I had been doing everything possible to meet matches and set myself up for success as best as possible, including often consulting with friends on dating situations and honestly there was a lot more drama in dating than I would have liked, and I just felt like the drama that was there just wasn’t necessary so it felt like working with a professional would help prevent that or get past it. Before working with Intersections match, I often felt like there was drama in dating, but during the whole process of working with Intersections match there was no drama whatsoever.

And many of the dating coaches out there that I found, there was none, I hadn’t found anything that was specialized for the South Asian community. The other thing is many of the marketing of the coaches, they would, they would make these promises, we’ll find you a date, we’ll get you in a relationship, and it felt kind of pushy. So that kept me away. But when saw that Jasbina had been out there for years and specialized in the South Asian community and just looking at the website, it felt like marketing wise, it would be easier to work with, more manageable to work with.

The biggest challenge I was facing before working with Intersections Match  was just trying to understand why a date before didn’t work out. I often found I would get hung up and stuck on a previous connection or a previous date and it would be challenging to move forward. But then when I started working with Jasbina that became easy very early on. Just kind of the process and instilling a mentality of getting the feedback and moving forward after that helped a lot.

I really liked having the feedback with the in-person introductions. Just getting that feedback helped give me closure if something didn’t work out, and it helped me to explore my own approach rather than get into being self-critical. She helped prevent me from getting out of my own way with the introductions.

Working with Intersections match helped in so many ways: momentum build-up, there was just this sense of openness, being open to matches that I thought I wouldn’t be open to, and it just kind of created this sense of a feeling of abundance that no matter what happened, it was for a good reason. I already had that mentality, but when I came to Intersections, I was second guessing and questioning why I have that mentality, if I should maintain it. But as time went on, I actually felt more conviction in that. Intersections helped me feel more hopeful about what possibilities are out there online – I didn’t realize before working with them there was something about being attached to a specific outcome in dating that I had.

Confidence buildup was kind of a big thing and just getting more comfortable in my masculine energy. Working with Jasbina, she brought a trust yourself message to me I felt and the way she treated me in our coaching sessions, she never positioned herself as someone that knew everything, she often reminded me to trust my instinct, to trust my intuition. And I think that consistent messaging helped build up confidence and self assurance and just kind of gave me the ability to present a more self assured version of myself and in my life in general. Not just in dating, but in my personal relationships and my professional relationships. And it kind of feels like that message alone has helped the behavior spread like wildfire.

In my personal relationships because I stopped coming to friends with dating drama, they took more of a oh, that’s an interesting experience, more of a listener role rather than like giving suggestions type of role. And it actually felt like with friends I gained cheerleaders where I didn’t feel like I had that before. So with my personal relationships, I feel like I’ve gained a lot more support and attracted positivity towards dating and I feel like that’s been transformative.

And then in professional relationships, since working with Jasbina I’ve just been able to communicate a little more assertively which has been helpful in many ways. I thought I was already doing that at work. I felt pretty good about how I was communicating at work. But after I started working with Jasbina, I noticed there was a difference in feedback from co-workers I was getting on what it was like to work with me. And the feedback just felt like there was a bit more of a respect. I work with older people that are about 20 years older than me, so I’m pretty young and I feel like they’ve seen me as a kid for most of my career, but now it kind of feels like I’m their equal.

So the amount of time that I felt I would have to spend toward my relationship goals and the dating journey felt very burdensome and I felt like I had to spend a lot of time every day that I just didn’t feel like I had toward finding matches, connecting and then thinking about the messages and keeping track of who I’m talking to and all this stuff. It often just felt like a lot and that it wasn’t worth it. But with Intersections’ services, again, I think a lot of the heavy work and going through the criteria, knowing that the matches that come my way have been vetted already, I didn’t have to worry about all of that.

And then with the messages and the basic communication, online dating became simplified so I didn’t have to spend much time thinking about it. So what felt like I would have to spend an hour or so a day trying to generate momentum and forward moving progress just became a couple of minutes a day. So it was like a huge, huge time reduction every day. And that left me more time for taking care of myself or reallocating that time for personal relationships or if something at work came up, which it often did, wasn’t as big of a deal to me because now the dating stuff in the back of my head wasn’t bothering me as much – it stopped nagging me.

The dating journey is a mental and an emotional experience. I think we often think there’s a lot of actions and certain things we have to do to make things successful and the mental paradigms that we have in our head that’s driving that belief and working with Intersections Match changed a lot of that for me, it liberated and freed up my approach, and I felt like it made me lighter, more free, and that just gave me access to bring about my best self.

There were many times in our coaching sessions Jasbina would say any woman would be lucky to date you, to be with you, to be in a relationship with you. And she would see things in me that I didn’t really see in myself. And so when I started taking the time to see that in myself and bring that out more in my interactions, I found that made a world of a difference, and that created a connection that no matter what happens, I could walk away feeling like I gained something from that interaction.

There was one or two dating situations when I told Jasbina that I don’t think this is going to work out and she did her part as a coach to make sure that feeling-wise, I was solid. Then she gave me the very simple game plan that made it a quick five minute interaction. And it basically just boiled down to not explaining everything and simply saying this is just not a fit. And that made things so much easier, so less daunting. And it freed up time basically then for me to go through a healing process because it’s not easy letting someone down; and it doesn’t feel good even if you know it’s the right decision.

Working with Intersections Match helped identify the obstacles from a mile away so that either it could be avoided or a game plan could be put together before the obstacle hit and then it’s more like a bump than an obstacle by the time it’s time to overcome it. So that was one way that I experienced working with Intersections Match – it felt like the obstacles just melted away and disappeared, like there was suddenly no obstacles in my way and everything was smooth sailing because I wasn’t so attached to an outcome anymore.

The impact has been tremendous because now my confidence and self assurance is unwavering. Before working with Intersections Match I would have self confidence and self assurance but it would waver from time to time given external situations and what would happen with dating and what’s not happening. But with Intersections Match’s service, it felt like very early on the confidence and self-assurance was reinforced and while I had moments of wavering, they were caught and my confidence and self-assurance was reinforced.

I felt more comfortable in my own skin and masculinity and was built-up, so there was a tremendous impact. Life changing. I feel grounded and self-assured about the path and the decisions that I’m making. There’s this general feeling of things falling into place effortlessly.

I would recommend Jasbina 100% absolutely, in a heartbeat, and I have, in fact.I would absolutely recommend Intersections Match’s services to anyone that I come across… I would definitely in a heartbeat, without thinking about it, recommend Intersections. Intersections Match does a great job. I think the quality of work is spectacular. I wouldn’t change anything.