Finding a Relationship When You

Frequently Travel

By Carol Margolis at

smartwomentravelers.com

Mon Jan 31, 2011 8:00pm EST

Valentine’s Day is approaching – a day that women who are not in a

relationship, and want to be, really do not look forward to. Add in

frequent travel to the equation and many of these women send me

pleas of, “How do I find someone when I’m traveling all the time?”

So I asked professional relationship coaches, online dating gurus and other women travelers for

their advice.

Joyce Morley, Ed.D. of doctorjoyce.com starts off with a great point of it being “imperative that

traveling professional business women first have a sense of what they are looking for in a partner,

before they start the search for someone to engage in a relationship. If she is not clear within herself

as to what she is looking for, traveling can bring about feelings of intense loneliness and a sense of

desperation. Desperation will put her in a position of believing that she has to look for and have

somebody, causing her to settle for anybody, without stability and commitment.”

I couldn’t agree with Dr. Morley more. Men can sense the desperation in a woman a mile away. And

it doesn’t bode well for a relationship when a woman just wants to find ‘somebody’ without really

knowing the characteristics that would match what she’s looking for.

Jasbina Ahluwalia Founder & President Intersections Match is a lawyer-turned entrepreneur, dating

coach and matchmaker. Her recommendations for meeting someone while traveling include:

o

Instead of viewing those inevitable travel lines (checking in, customer service,

security, dining establishments, hotels, cab lines, etc.) as wasted time, turn lemons

into

lemonade

and

seize

the

opportunity

to

confidently

and

warmly initiate

conversations while in line.

o

Do the same with your plane/train fellow passengers–you never know!

The

gentleman or lady in 5C may be (or know) a great person to introduce you

to…and travelers guards tend to be lowered while outside of their day-to-day

Sue Richter of www.SeraPublishing.com is an author and travel writer. Sue says that “one of the

best places to meet people is in a coffee shop. I can’t tell you how many men have come up to me

and started talking to me, even with a ring on my finger. If you’re single and looking for

companionship, find out from the locals where the hot spot coffee shop is and go work from there.

Bring your laptop, set up shop and look around. You’ll be amazed!”

I know someone who created a business partnership with the guy standing behind her at Starbucks,

so Sue probably has something here!