Ahluwalia doesn't necessarily advocate a wholesale break with tradition, but clients

need to have thought through their answers. If a woman says she wants to marry a

Hindu, for instance, Ahluwalia asks what that means: Going to temple each week?

Simply being spiritual?

Thakur is willing to look within the parameters set by her parents, but she has her

own priorities: physical attraction, education, good employment and stability. She

didn't meet anybody she liked at Mittal's party.

"I guess you become more fussy when you get older," she said.